Discussion: virgins 

So like I have said before, when thinking of what pleases men, we think it’s playing with their bodies let them inside us and then they are pleased but due to my understanding; men are just as complicated as women are. That’s why I am starting this series of discussions so that I can understand more and also help others. I also demand brutal honesty, in this and also respect. Also if you do not agree with someone’s opinion, do remember -it’s their opinion and be respectful even if you feel like commenting on it.

 I have been contacted by some virgins both male and female, both of their worries are that women and men avoid them due to no experience. In my culture if a woman is a virgin a man normally treasures her as it shows that she respects herself but that said; it doesn’t mean every man could look at a virgin in this way. Also in my culture women always crave a much older and experienced man as they are said to be more profound and caring. In fact; my grandma taught/told me, I would experience more with an older man and they will care for me and respect me more. I can’t say I know or I have experienced such with a man because I have not been with a man older than me. 

So the question for this week’s discussion is: 

Do men like virgins? And what is their opinion about them? Please be brutally honest because this discussion will be useless if people aren’t honest. After all you are free to voice your opinions. 

37 thoughts on “Discussion: virgins 

  1. I wrote a post about a virgin I walked away from. It wasn’t so much that she was a virgin, it was her openness to sexuality in general that was a turn off. She could have still been hot and a virgin and I would have been more willing to stay. The long-run view of an exciting sex life didn’t seem very promising. In general, I like to feel like I’m a teacher and exposing my lover to new experiences. If I start rolling out fantasies and she’s like, “Yep, done that and that and that one, did that several times” etc… it does take away from the journey a bit.

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      1. Mmmm, this just triggered a teacher – naughty school girl fantasy!😄I’ve been MIA due to work demands the last month but hope life has been treating you well and that you are enjoying a wonderful summer…hopefully a school break too😘

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  2. You are absolutely correct about people being complex. Keeping that in mind, my opinion is just as complex…

    Virginity is a social construct (fancy speak for someone making it up).

    It also just describes the act of penetration. So really, it only describes a part of sexuality. One may be a virgin and still be very skilled in doing other sexual acts. OR, one may find a man/woman who has lost their virginity who is no good at anything for lack of experimenting with that.

    But here is where things get even more redicilous: depending on who you ask, they will prefer different things. Why? Because we are looking for someone like us. You (and I base this on your writing) would rather prefer someone who is adventurous and in touch with their desires, virgin or not. (Because after all, that can be changed 😉 )

    But, ask someone who holds a high standard to being exclusively with only one person, and prefer routene and only a certain way of doing things (which is also good), they will prefer a virgin, or someone who had little/no experience.

    In conclusion, people want partners who are like themselves. A mirror which is very much the same, yet different in some ways.

    And, again my personal opinion, ideas like Virginity is all in society’s head. In the end it really does’nt matter.

    Thanks for taking the time and effort to read it all. It is my hope that it might just hold the key to what you are seeking.

    With regards
    Havoc

    PS, for answering your question in full, I would prefer someone adventurous, romantic and sensual… virgin or not (becuase after all, that would be just like me)

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  3. It’s been a long time since I was one! Lol
    I guess it depends on the man. And his experience. I’d say that there’s a challenge with a Virgin. Whether once a guys won that challenge he wants experience, or to teach or to learn together is more the question
    I have no real opinion about Virgins as its there choice so it’s none of my business. The one thing I do know is a lot of people wish they would have waited for a different person to lose their virginity

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  4. The concept of virginity being important is a social construct. Why isn’t it as important for men to be virgins? Because boys are allowed to be boys when it comes to sex. So who are they having sex with? And why is a double standard applied to women who have sex? More experienced older men are having sex with someone, multiple someones. It’s a double standard to stigmatize women for having sex but not men.

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  5. Hi Samantha! I’ve never been with a virgin. I wouldn’t actively seek one out but I wouldn’t dismiss her just because of her lack of experience. Also, I think it is hypocritical when guys insist that women have little or no sexual past when they themselves strive to rack up as many conquests as they possibly can. I don’t like the double standard.

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  6. Interesting question! I’ve never thought about a woman’s virginity whenever I have flirted with a woman. I guess some men may be slightly put off by the lack of experience, but that’s only a temporary problem isn’t it? 😀 I did take the virginity of one girl and was very flattered that she would have me as her first and respected her level of trust. My opinion is if you do things of a sexual nature with a virgin please please please do keep in mind you are making a powerful imprint on them regarding their look on intimacy and sexuality whether you like it or not and have no power over that, but what you do have is the power to make this imprint either positive or negative, so be mindful of that.
    On a purely personal scale, the virginity of any partner hasn’t been a decisive issue forming a new relationship, I really don’t/didn’t care. Not that I have been with many women 🙂

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  7. This is an interesting question.
    I’ve been thinking about it and honestly I don’t know.
    I think for me personally I would prefer a woman with a bit of experience. That is probably down to the fact that I have only been with one woman and I myself was a virgin until I was 24.
    So I may not be the best one to answer this question but that’s the best I can do.
    I would prefer someone with a bit of experience but I wouldn’t say no to someone just because of they were a virgin I would probably sit and talk to her first to make sure she was ready before even considering having sex with her.
    Then once that was settled I’d do everything I could to make sure that she is comfortable, feels safe and loved.
    But that’s just me.

    You asked for brutal honesty. I think I passed on that mark there

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      1. Well the important thing is that she feels safe and is ready for it. If she was doing it before she’s ready just because she thought it was what I wanted I would stop right there.
        Its about her feeling safe and ready. I know I’ve said that a few times but it’s true

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      2. I have thought of it, that’s why in relationships love ends up being one sided because some women believe a man doesn’t have feelings and doesn’t feel instead they don’t give enough love to a man but expect to get all the love from them. A bit off topic but I think men and women feel the same way.

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      3. That’s something that annoys me.
        A lot of people, not just women, forget that men have feelings. We aren’t allowed to express ourselves it’s a pain in the arse. I know that’s way of topic.
        Maybe be a good topic for your next discussion

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