13 questions TMI

I confess, I stole this from JL Peridot and I thought it was cool. It’s more like a TMI or a get to know me kind of thing. Go check out their blog it’s pretty cool and erotic.  I will answer these very honestly.

1. How do you hope to change as a person in the future? I hope to be more soft. I am a hard person and I tell it like it is and that makes me hurt people. If you watch the tv program suits, picture me as a female version if Harvey. So maybe I will like to soften up a bit. I also like attention. When I am in the room I want to wholly everyone and if someone takes the spotlight it pisses me off. So maybe I would like to be a bit soft on that. 

2. What keeps you up at night? I am extremely career driven and sometimes I think I allow that to keep me up at night.Anxiety  and thinking if every bad thing that could hinder my career. Other than that no matter how happy or sad I am, I rarely stay up at night unless I am watching a bunch of film. 

3. What’s the most surprising self-realisation you’ve had? I have had many haha. Waking up in the morning. Recently I realise that I have gained all the weight I worked off because gym is my favourite part of life but because I had been lazy I never woke up and went to gym and I found every excuse under the sun to not but then I went for shopping the other day and since that day, I am working my ass off. 

4. What lie do you tell the most? That I am happy single I guess. I don’t know man, I am a concealed person and I lie to keep my cover. I hate sharing my feelings so if I love someone I will lie that they didn’t hurt me when deep inside I am crying. I lie about my feeling more than anything. Otherwise, I barely lie. My mom hates that shit so she taught us to stay truthful. 

5. What do you regret not doing? I regret not learning to out myself first. I make people happy while I die inside and I regret not standing up and defending myself and learning to say no. 

6. What do you often look down on people for? Arrogance, negativity, bitchiness, procrastinating, whiny people really piss me off, people who cry about everything and not sorting shit. I have more but the list could go on. 

7. What do you think people look down on you for  the most? For being the most liked person in the room, being the funniest and that I have my shit together and for being the straightforward girl. 

8. What gives your life meaning? Doing what I love.

9. What bridges do you not regret burning? Useless people in my life. You hurt me I leave you. You bore me, I leave you behind. You annoy me, I will leave you behind. Basically I burn every bridge that is pointless in my life. 

10. What are you more insecure about? I don’t know to be honest but I know I am a bit insecure about how I look sometimes other than that, I don’t know. 

11. How do you get in the way of your own success? Being afraid to go out of my comfort zone, nervousness, overthinking. 

12. What’s one thing you wish you could go back and undo? I seriously don’t know. 

13. What are you afraid people see when they look at you? I am afraid people look at me like an intimidating person that they can’t be with. I am afraid people look at me like I am not a hard worker or I am not string enough. 

My goodness me I LOVE RIHANNAย 

So she turned up in London for the Valerian premiere !!!!!!!!! and Jesus Christ from Nazareth, she looks like an angel I mean look: 

Look at that smile, look how red makes her look like the most amazing and romantic woman THAT SHE IS! My heart is beating so fast I am even having tears of joy despite the fact that I am so far away from London.

She is soooooo angelic I seriously have no words to describe just how much I admire her. She is such a strong young woman who has accomplished more than anyone can ever imagine for a woman her age. She is proof that dreaming harder and being passionate about what you do will always make you go higher and it will pay off.

So Fucking fierce and extremely sexy. She is my inspiration in so many ways. She inspires me every day and every time I wake up and feel like my dream is not making any progress I think about this young Barbadian girl who had accomplished so much and think that she didn’t give up because if she did, she wouldn’t be here and I certainly can’t even imagine who would be inspiring me as much as she does. 

Just look at her man!!!!! She is just amazing. As much as no one is perfect Rih is my figure of perfection. She is just… effortlessly amazing and look at her right now in london 4 hours away from were I am ๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข 

I was so sad last year I couldn’t afford to go see her concert. In my life I haven’t been the kid from a rich family who can afford paying for shows and even when I had started work I still couldn’t but I swear I will meet her one day and my dream is I meet her through working on a film together cause she has started acting now ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜. I know it’s silly but hey… anything is possible. 

Just like it is possible to have such a beautiful soul in the world!! 

I am really really proud of her and how she has worked so hard and actually always make me optimistic about the future. I love her so much. Nobody can ever understand how much I love her. She is amazing. 

Would you rather spend 6 months with the true love of your life… or never?

Colin has given me something to talk about just like I asked in my happy one year post. 

The question is… 

Colin Gave me something to think about and I have never ever thought about that. True love. If anyone in this blog knows something about me is how much I want to be in love and to love someone. But if there is something I can’t stand is pain. I can stand physical pain but never emotional pain. 
Hence, a part of me that craves love ever so much thinks I would actually want to experience what it would be like to be with the love of my life for six months. Despite the time limit on that, I think it is an experience I can’t miss. Pain is sometimes meant for growth and maybe I would grow stronger after those six months. I love love and I can’t imagine how amazing it would be to find the true love of my life and even if it will be for a short while, I think I would be happy I had a chance to be with them. 


If I never meet them and never ever know the feeling of love that could possibly mean I would be unhappy and busy being in plain relationships, being cheated on, being hurt twenty times more in my life, probably being lonely and sad or more. I feel like that would be more sad because I would be wishing on true love and if I never meet them I will never ever believe in true love again. My mother is the example of something like that. Mom is 37 and she hasn’t met her true lover. She has been in all kinds of horrible relationships, she has been abused, she has had a boyfriend that literally pointed a gun on her head, she has been played cheated and all kinds of bad stuff and here she is 37 years young and believing love is bullshit and she would rather be on her own. When I tell her how much I wish to love a man one day she tells me “maybe its possible but men are plain rubbish (no offence to the lads on here) I should focus on myself.”

In other ways she is right, I should always focus on myself but these horrible men she had had in her life have painted a bad picture for every man out there and trust me a small part of her does want to be in love but she just can’t trust anyone or really believe anyone who says they love her because ten minutes after that they hurt her and I think if she spent six months with the true love of her life; she would still have hope. Whereas now, she isn’t even looking or caring for that matter. She is happy on her own and that’s something I don’t want for myself. Not that she is sad, I just want love. simple.

So my final answer is, I would love to spend six months with the love of my life and this question has made me make a promise that if I really was to meet the true love of my life, I would spend each day like it’s the last. I would love them like I have never before and after those six months pain would obviously be inevitable but one day I would say “I was once in love” and it would be one hell of a story. 

So tell me what would you do? Spend six months with the true love of your life or never ever meet them? 

Discussion: big girls/ big women…?ย 

(I love this woman!!!!!)

I am glad we are in a time where most thick women feel confident and beautiful in their skin. I myself I am a curvy girl, I am no where near skinny and sometimes I feel less beautiful which is fairly less times to be honest. The thing is being a bigger girl comes with more flaws than most thinner women. We have huge tits that aren’t as perky, some thick girls don’t have huge tits but the majority do. I do and they are heavy and annoying but I wouldn’t trade them for anything. I have read some articles where men say they are turned off when a plus woman has her huge tits that are obviously not going to be perky. 

(Another fav from Ig)

Second, we have stretch marks, our tiger stripes define our growth and our feminity and again I have read articles where some men say they are a turn off or they wouldn’t date a plus woman because of that. 

(So beautiful!, my body type)

Besides some thick women have thick thighs that rub together, cause friction and skin discolouration, and I have yet again read articles where women feel insecure about this and where they have been insulted about it. In my opinion, it’s all natural. 

Also I know there are some big men who aren’t six pack and muscles, who too are thick and are also made to feel as though they aren’t beautiful. I know people have preference, I have mine but sometimes you can’t help who you fall for. 

The media and the society makes us feel as though we are unattractive and that we must be picture perfect or if we are curvy, we must be Kim Kardashian curvy which is just… let’s not go there. 

So this week’s discussion is about fat/thick/plus/curvy women and thick men. 

Would you date a thick (BBW) woman/ man? Do the flaws I have mentioned above turn you off? And on the picture below which girl would you prefer if you were to date a big girl? 


I know this is a sensitive subject for other people and I don’t mean to offend. I am doing this discussion because people email me to do it and a lot have. I am just helping and if you have an idea of any discussion please voice it. Also share this post so that more people would join in. It’s fun if we are many. 

 I also ask that you write your most honest response and do not feel afraid or lie just to impress, I want you to be honest. And remember every opinion is an opinion, if it offends you, don’t take it to heart. 

No matter who you are, you are very very beautiful and no words should make you feel less than beautiful and handsome. 

Let’s have a laugh ๐Ÿ˜‚ย 

The internet has no chill man ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ 

Discussion: virginsย 

So like I have said before, when thinking of what pleases men, we think it’s playing with their bodies let them inside us and then they are pleased but due to my understanding; men are just as complicated as women are. That’s why I am starting this series of discussions so that I can understand more and also help others. I also demand brutal honesty, in this and also respect. Also if you do not agree with someone’s opinion, do remember -it’s their opinion and be respectful even if you feel like commenting on it.

 I have been contacted by some virgins both male and female, both of their worries are that women and men avoid them due to no experience. In my culture if a woman is a virgin a man normally treasures her as it shows that she respects herself but that said; it doesn’t mean every man could look at a virgin in this way. Also in my culture women always crave a much older and experienced man as they are said to be more profound and caring. In fact; my grandma taught/told me, I would experience more with an older man and they will care for me and respect me more. I can’t say I know or I have experienced such with a man because I have not been with a man older than me. 

So the question for this week’s discussion is: 

Do men like virgins? And what is their opinion about them? Please be brutally honest because this discussion will be useless if people aren’t honest. After all you are free to voice your opinions. 

Discussion: what men like…

Hey guys, so I decided we would have some discussions on my blog and just get to know what people like and don’t. Especially men as they are hard to understand. 

I have heard quiet a lot of Prostate Stimulation for men. Is this something that men enjoy? 

So let’s discuss Prostate stimulation and whether you (men) like it or not or you (women) can do it for your man? 

No judgement here and you are free to express your opinion. 

Why do women cheat?ย 

I chose to write this article based on women because I have read over a million about men who cheat and mostly, men cheat because they just don’t wanna settle yet or they are just dickheads. Bare in mind, there are some men who are very loving and they are therefore almost incapable of cheating. That said, women too cheat. In my life I know women who cheat more than men who cheat. Why? 

1. They just can’t settle 

Not every woman is capable of settling with one man. Some want more different men. It’s either as a man you give them less than what they want or you have become something they didn’t think you were and they will go search for it. 

2.You don’t make her feel wanted

Women love feeling wanted. They love knowing that you crave them and that you think about them constantly. If they try to at least push themselves to you and you are lackadaisical or you don’t show enough hunger and want for her, she will go to the man/woman outside that is giving her that kind of attention. 

3. Communication

This is a vital part of any kind of relationship in the world. Some men just can’t talk, they don’t know how to listen to their partner or talk their feelings out. They just don’t know how and the issue there is they don’t try to know how or to at least communicate. This leads to a woman meeting someone who likes talking and falling in love with that person because words are simply amazing. 

4. Bad sex

A woman might love you more than anything but she won’t dedicate her entire life to bad sex. I am sure men wouldn’t too. Sex is important in a relationship. Women as much as men also like it interesting. Try new things and more. Make it good. Know where to improve and don’t feel bruised up when she tells you that you weren’t that good. If you love her, ask her how she wants it and give it to her. Otherwise, she will go and look for someone who goes down dirty. 

5. Dick size issue? 

I know most people think this is the reason. This is debatable due to women being different. And yeah maybe you are already thinking it will be about the dick being small, well you could have a third leg and a woman being unhappy with it. Why? She could be extremely tight and maybe that man’s stimulating skills are quite low so he won’t know how to stimulate her so that she is drenching wet and then use other objects to get her used to his girth and length. Second, yeah it could be too small and also the guy would be probably small on some knowledges which is why I always advise people to read erotica. You could have a small dick but a good mouth, some dexterous fingers and an inquisitive adventurous mindset and a woman would stay. It’s about how you make her enjoy sex, how you use that dick of yours that matters. If you lack other skills and have dick issues, she will go and search for a skilled man and trust me, you don’t want that.
6. Nothing is ever enough for her

There are some women that you could lift the world and give it to them and it would be not enough. So don’t blame yourself when she cheats. Nothing is enough for her. 

7. You cheated too 

Which would only mean you have problems! And she will want to revenge and go bang another man. 

8. You are not romantic 

I am sucker for romance. I love all romantic things, novels and chocolates. It doesn’t have to be an occasion, fret work stop by the shops and get her some of her fav magazine and chocolates. Send her a text reminding her how much you love her. Be romantic, give her a body massage, run her a warm bath, sweet surprises and all. It doesn’t have to cost too much ยฃ5 could be enough. Try to put a smile on her face, make her heart beat a bit faster. 

9. Pride and feminism 

Yes this is the issue. Women have an ego too. A huge pride and trust me pride and love are hard to mingle. These days women believe both men and women are equal, some take it to the extreme some keep it nuetral. At the same time you also have your pride, so when there is two alphas in one room there is a war. Sometimes, a man is threatened by feminism or is against it or something else, these issues could break you apart and she could leave or cheat and find someone who won’t bruise her little ego or pride. So know your woman? Is she driven by ego and pride or love and understanding? Is she an extreme feminist or one that is normal? 

These are reasons I can think of. If you have some just comment below and thank you for reading.